My wife mentioned a sobering thought last night. “Why do you keep taking more things on? You’re busy enough with school from being a husband and father.” It’s true. I put my hand in so many projects it’s hard to focus on the few that are really crucial. Being a Penn State student and being a good husband and father make a full-time job in itself. But I’m stretching myself to the limit of time by starting/maintaining various websites, joining a startup company, running my own consulting company, and taking on an independent study at school.
As the semester comes to a close and other events coincidentally happen to fall into the same weeks, I do not have a resting moment. My wife isn’t too happy about that, needless to say. She sees glimpses of a workaholic in me, which I must agree with.
One major problem is my grades dropping this semester. I depend on scholarships and grants to put myself through college, so maintaining grades is the least I can do towards achieving that.
When I asked how my IST Mentor manages to work at a Fortune 500 company and involve himself in entrepreneurship, he said, “You just do it. Don’t think about it and just do it.” That’s pretty much what I’ve been doing because, otherwise, I would feel crushed with stress. But my wife did bring up a good point that I have to focus my energy. I have too many responsibilities to do otherwise.
The Conversation {3 comments}
It’s okay Daehee. Women are unable to fathom the busy work of men with their 1/3 the normal size brains. And that’s science, which you can’t disprove.
Listen to your wife … she knows what’s best for you so you can be at your best!
I have the same problem and wonder all the time whether its worth it. We get so involved because we enjoy the projects and honestly, want to do them. Every time a new project arises, I ask myself, “Do I have time for that?”. The answer is always, “Yes, I do.” and never “No.” although the latter is usually the true statement. For me the limit is when I don’t have enough personal time alone EACH day. If you don’t have enough time to read a book, play video games, go for a leisurely walk, jam on your guitar, or whatever you do to relax by yourself, you’re going to lose sanity at some point.
I heard it takes a good two weeks of doing nothing to truly relax after a stressful time period.
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